What You Think & Feel
I often encounter people who say they feel “stressed”. What does that mean? In my experience, it can mean anything, and that is why I think it is sometimes so hard to deal with “stress” because you do not know what you are dealing with.
If you know the stress is due to the sadness, you can work with that. If you know the stress is physical because you have too much work, you can work with that.
If you feel stressed, I strongly suggest, you try to describe more precisely what you feel, so you know better in which direction you can search for help or what you can do to get better.
To me being stressed is like when someone asks me what I had for dinner and I reply “food”. It says something, but at the same time, it says nothing.
Another thing, your brain is super smart, it will give you answers if you ask yourself the right questions. When someone tells me they feel stressed, I ask them, which feeling do you really feel. A very common answer is: “I feel like I can not do this anymore”. I say: “cannot do this anymore” is not a feeling, it is a thought. So you think you cannot do this anymore, okay, but what emotion or feeling do you feel? This question is harder to answer then one might think. So I help with questions like, is it fear, is it anger, is it sadness, is it love? One step towards knowing more about yourself is making a clear difference in what you are thinking and what you are feeling it is not the same. We tend to react stronger on “feelings” then on thoughts. The thought itself “I feel like I can not do this anymore” weighs heavier on someone, than “I think I can not do this anymore”. If I think it, it is often not so bad as when I feel it, and there is no emotion for “I can not do this anymore”, ask yourself which feeling accompanies the thought and work with it.